I don't have a specific topic in mind for this post, but rather random thoughts that have been on my mind that I'd like to write about. Firstly I'd like to say that I recently read a friend's post on Purpose and found it to be absolutely brilliant. This guy is very insightful and has definitely helped me along my way to changing my life. Also, it made me start thinking about how one is successful in pursuing his goal or purpose. For me, a someone who is successful at this is someone who, has described in the Purpose post, has a strong and resolute purpose to guide him along. Moreover, they must have the foresight to see what it will take to get to that goal, and at the same time be intensely focused on the present moment so that they may execute and react to the present situation. Having a strong sense of the present is a quality I find invaluable, since it allows you to focus 100% of your resources on the task at hand while not worrying about past failures or future obstacles.
Another quality that many, including myself, want is charisma. The funny thing is, I think when I was in Italy was when I was the most charismatic. Allow me to explain. I was in a group of 15 students that went to Italy and study in this program over there. We all lived in the same apartment buildings, each having one roommate. There, we met these two Italian guys that hang out with the Americans that come every year(my school does this program every year, and every year the students stay at the same place). These guys were a fucking blast, they were loud, outgoing, partied all the time, and generally didn't seem to have a care in the world. We became fast friends. This was exactly the way I was in Italy, too. A conversation I had with a good friend (the same guy that wrote the post I mentioned above) before leaving this program loosened me up, and when I got there I was a completely carefree individual. I was loud, outspoken, was not afraid to use my Italian, and generally did what I wanted. Everyone on the trip loved me! Strangely enough, this was one time where I genuinely didn't care about what others think, unlike when I use to go out and sarge, and at the end of the program people were telling me how they had a blast with me (I got some of the girls attracted to me during this program, but they were not hot and eventually they ended up not 'liking' me since I didn't escalate).
What is my point in all of this? I'm not sure. But I was thinking about it today and figured you'd be able to extract something from this. Maybe if I can think of how to organize this better I will later on, or perhaps I will wait for comments to decide on what to write about next.
2 comments:
I think the main problem is that, as men, we create all these dramas in our head. When we talk to strangers, we are already thinking of what it's like to be with them, etc, when the reality is that we have no clue who they are. Definitely go in with having fun, and it's our job to evaluate them to see if they are cool enough to hang with us. Thankfully, most are not. If you want to find those people, go on match.com or the community ;)
You've said some nice things, they're appreciated. You're doing the right thing but you know that already, its about living as natural a life as possible, not making it more unnatural. Sometimes we need to make unnatural behaviors natural but regardless the end goal is the same, to have the happiness you deserve.
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