Random Thoughts

I'm back....

A lot has changed since I've last posted but I will let those parts that have become known through my writing instead of explicitly listing them here.

First thought I had was how quickly we blame external factors for our shortcomings. On the Dr. Phil show an overweight woman in her late 30s was outraged that she had been scammed for a $100,000 by a man claiming to be an ex-football player for the Dallas Cowboys. She met him in Vegas (God bless my city) and proceeded to "give up" her virginity to him.

Now there were warning signs all over the place through her own admission. She found out the guy wasn't really a football player, he would not talk about his past at all, did not want to let her meet his family , etc. Did she take the lessons learned from this and decide to be more attentive all the while recognizing she had been duped?

Nope.

Instead, she made it her mission to warn others of men like this and expose these frauds. If she would assume responsibility for what happened (even if it is due to her naivety, I mean a female virgin in her late 30s...LOL!) and then decided to help others by educating them she probably would have grown as a person and become more savvy. Instead she stunts any growth or wisdom she could have extracted from this and blames it on external factors.

What a shame. We all do this, myself included, and it really impedes our progress in the domains which we may want to advance in. The problem you can't interact socially isn't that someone was suuuuuuuuuuuper mean to you in high school and really hurt your confidence even though you are now in your late 20s. The problem is that you let someone decide your self-worth and instead of recognizing it for what it was you decided to shift the blame outward so as not to hurt yourself.

Sometimes pain can be helpful in the sense it can indicate areas that you may need to explore.

Second thought: Cockteases suck.

Third thought: Why the hell can maintaining your determination to see something through be hard at times? I am familiar with the schools of thought on this and have applied them and have seen improvement. However, I still seem to get stuck in ruts at times and find it hard to get started again. For instance, I could be working out really religiously and loving it and see great results then sort of just peter off.

Another example is I can feel myself becoming that person I've always wanted to be. Assuming that mindset and walking that walk of the person I want to be, then all of a sudden feel like an outstretched elastic band snapping back into place.

Weird.

Thoughts?

No posts

That's it, no new posts for at least one month. I am also cutting my computer time by not going on irc for a month as well. Why? Because I want to, that's it. I won't forget my friends, obviously, as I have given them ample ways to contact me, and have every intention and wish to stay in touch. Like I said it's only one month, maybe more but I'll be back. After that time I'll post about my thoughts, changes, and anything else on my mind..

-Peace

Women: The biggest conspiracy theory?

Don't pay too much attention to the title, you won't find Kennedy assassination plots in here. I just like dramatic titles :) . I was talking to a good friend earlier about how women perceive themselves. The subject arose when I showed him a picture of two girls I know that think they are hot, yet in reality aren't (lord, forgive me!).

My friend said that all women think they are hot, even when they are not. I believe he is close to the truth. Let me explain how I my view was formed before I delve into this subject. On this matter I was probably heavily influenced by two factors: 1) Observing my sisters through their 20s (zomfgbbq i wont give u pix!) and 2) My dad, namely working at his law office ( he did divorces in Las Vegas) and seeing him go up against moms that were strippers, casino whores, and "angels".

I remember my dad one time telling me this when I asked him about one case "Women in a relationship have one thing to sell, sex. They have a limited time to sell it before it expires. So find someone truly worth it like your mom".

A hot woman derives her confidence, especially inside a club or bar, from the fact that people perceive her as such. She is used to guys saying she is hot, or acting timid around her (which is the same as saying she is hot). This is why negs work or acting "confident". By negging you are essentially saying "You aren't hot, I don't buy into that perception of you". Once you have set that tone, she essentially loses all her power. What else is supposed to hold your interest if you don't find her hot? You essentially gutted her of her self-esteem.

So, in essence, we guys give women their power! By acting timid, and unnecessarily complimenting them, we are in effect feeding this perception. Now why is it that all women act hot? Well, much like products we see on TV, most men aren't interested in "substance" (i.e. what she truly is like, at least initially) and more so in the "hype" (i.e. looks). So what is a sub-par looking female to do? Act hot of course! If she acts hot, she is giving off that aura that she too, like the real hot women, has guys act timid over her and compliment her. This is why you see fat bitches making those kissy faces (see my picture I posted here) or dancing with their friends sexily. If I were to see this broad during the day I wouldn't look at her twice, yet at night she gets a second stare just because she acts hot!

This is why I think a truly confident guy is really insuperable. If you draw your source of confidence from something internal and not external nothing can fray you. For example, do not draw your confidence from the fact you are the "best" at something (PU or whatever) but rather something internal (you follow your passion relentlessly, such as traveling). Once you achieve that no woman can fray you. That is why I think a confident guy is has a stronger reality than a hot woman. The day the hot woman, who is use to getting all the attention and skipping lines, shows signs of aging and all of a sudden isn't getting the attentions he once was and people aren't falling head over heels to let her skip lines, her reality and therefore "confidence" comes tumbling down.

So in short, see past the hype and don't concentrate on how "hot" she is. Instead, truly be relaxed, derive your confidence internally, and treat these girls like the little girls they really are! :)

The confidence flows

This post is not about PU or its dynamics, but rather a personal development in my quotidian life. These have not been earth-shattering, large-scale changes, they are the beginning. Little by little I feel things inside me change, and these small changes are manifesting themselves more each day. I read once that to divert a stream you must do it a little at a time, at first you get splashed, but slowly you getting more and more to trickle to where you want.

I would like to post some examples here, but it is too difficult to put into words such serene subtlety. How can I explain months of conscious/unconscious shifting of my mindset and my perception of the world, which are not starting to show up in my daily life. To do so properly, I'd have to practically give you my biography of the past year!

What I can convey unto you is this: it's possible, and down-right certain if you believe it. It's almost zen-like in a way, you simultaneously push for it, and also sit back and let it come. I remember when I was younger everyone telling me no one can change. I remember asking my mom why people said that, and she replied "Because they don't want it". At the time I didn't understand, yet now I understand how truly insightful and wise that comment was.

What am I saying with all of this? If you're truly open to change, and are ready to pursue it it'll come. When and how? I don't know. To draw an analogy, one can drive from New York to Las Vegas with his headlights on (assuming it was always dark) and only seeing 200 ft ahead of him. Just because he can't see the destination doesn't mean he isn't getting there.

My Future Self

Note: I know there are a few people who read this blog, but those who casually read this I'd appreciate comments on how you go about accomplishing goals and such

I was reading an interesting post written by Sinn that my friend pointed out in his blog. This post speaks volumes to the struggles of many not only in PU, but more generally as human beings we experience everyday.

One of the biggest puzzles we face as humans, in my estimation, is our constant want for better things, for positive change, yet we are indecisive, slow, and hesitant when it comes to implementing such changes. Sure, in part it is due to a lack of a concrete goal, or steps that it takes to achieve said goal, however, I believe the main problem is our expectancy of "instant gratification" and our overall resistance to change.


Funny thing is today I read a post that says you shouldn't push yourself to the point you feel internal resistance to the change. I am still debating that concept, and I may develop that thought further in another post.

This post, however, is my vision for myself down the road. A changed and bettered self. First, I will start with the obvious, women. I see myself being able to approach women in any setting, be it at a cafe or a nightclub, obvious right? Moreover, I see myself not being phased by the presence of a hot woman, and being able to be completely relaxed (no matter how hard I try, I am still a bit "nervous"). Most importantly, and I think I can already do this, I will not require a woman to be happy, nor will I let her be the center of my existence. To translate this in a tangible goal, during my 20's I want to experience many women and meet women wherever I go so as to enhance my life.

The next one goal is something that has become a goal just recently. In reality it is a combination of two. That is, I will be able to defend myself (physically) and be physically fit/healthy. I value physical health very highly, and now more than ever I value being able to defend myself in real-world situations very much. Being a traveler, I have seen many things, and have been fortunate to avoid them. However, I know that I may not always be able to avoid confrontations. Plus, I'd like to make a Martial art or combat sport my main hobby.

Finally, I will travel and experience many different things. I have already started an unofficial list of things I want to see/do. Off the top of my head the list includes: Carneval in Brazil and Venice, Palio di Siena, and St. Patty's day in Ireland. I want to be in a situation where I can get up, and travel whenever I want. I value traveling so much, I can't even really explain it. The thrill I get from going to a new place, especially with friends, and the unknown excitement that awaits is something I can, and may, write a post about. In fact, I think it is my love of traveling that has got me into this PU stuff. I want to be socially witty, and at ease so that wherever I go I can make instant friends and thoroughly enjoy myself!

P.S. I was gonna write about how I was going to pursue these goals, but I will write that in the next post.

Long time no post

I have written in awhile because I feel that I have nothing new to write about. It seemed that after awhile my posts got a bit redundant, but then I realized it is because that is what has been occupying my mind so much! Last night I went out and had a blast. To sum it up, it was fucking crazy. That is the experiences I want to have every night, I want it to be just wild and extremely fun. How does one go about having a great time like this? Well, I mean we could be logical (I find it funny using the word logical whenever I talk about this stuff) it would entail being extremely social, in the moment, and worry-free.

However, I think that trying to quantify and break it down destroys its very essence and makes one's experience less fun. It is like in Quantum Mechanics, once you observe/study/measure something, you forever destroy its information. What am I trying to say? Just go with the flow baby! The point is to have this stuff be second nature. Everyone enjoys eating, yet do you breakdown its steps? Not anymore I'd hope. Once you've reached a point where you believe you have a 'logical' understanding, just let go!

There isn't much substance, or MPUA++ 4000 type of tactical/strategical information (I still laugh to think that this new guy I went out with asked me where the best place was to sit in a bar for sets, hahaha). Anyways, I guess what it comes down to are the three points Tyler mentioned in his blog over here. Sometimes I reflect on how serious I have taken myself, and it makes me laugh out loud, literally. I doubt the Romans thought about their body language
during the Lupercalia festival, so neither should you!

Exit strategy

I was thinking about our current situation and all the proposed exit strategies there are for it, and I started thinking. When will I say enough is enough with all of this PU business? I mean, I got into this with the eventual goal that getting women involved in my life, and to a greater extent to become 'charming' and good socially, would become a natural part of who I am.

Therefore, as I progress through this PU business, I ask myself "when will I stop reading, stop watching, and stop discussing all of this?". I think at a certain point one needs to have faith that he has done enough "studying" and discussing about this, and trust the fact that this is an ongoing process and you are at the point where you socialize for fun and you will naturally become better at it.

When I first started thinking about this, I asked myself if I should put a definitive date on when I would stop all of this. Then, I considered just letting it happen naturally, and now I am just not sure. I think more or less after this Christmas the process will happen naturally as I will have to start working until law school (the current plan is to work overseas). To sum it up, I am not sure when this will happen, but I know it is inevitable. Why is it inevitable? For the reasons stated above. I want this, and know it will, to be a natural thing that is removed from my conscious into my unconscious. Even the greatest of orators and politicians who studied their craft moved on from merely discussing it to living it.