Exit strategy

I was thinking about our current situation and all the proposed exit strategies there are for it, and I started thinking. When will I say enough is enough with all of this PU business? I mean, I got into this with the eventual goal that getting women involved in my life, and to a greater extent to become 'charming' and good socially, would become a natural part of who I am.

Therefore, as I progress through this PU business, I ask myself "when will I stop reading, stop watching, and stop discussing all of this?". I think at a certain point one needs to have faith that he has done enough "studying" and discussing about this, and trust the fact that this is an ongoing process and you are at the point where you socialize for fun and you will naturally become better at it.

When I first started thinking about this, I asked myself if I should put a definitive date on when I would stop all of this. Then, I considered just letting it happen naturally, and now I am just not sure. I think more or less after this Christmas the process will happen naturally as I will have to start working until law school (the current plan is to work overseas). To sum it up, I am not sure when this will happen, but I know it is inevitable. Why is it inevitable? For the reasons stated above. I want this, and know it will, to be a natural thing that is removed from my conscious into my unconscious. Even the greatest of orators and politicians who studied their craft moved on from merely discussing it to living it.

Necessary Cuts

For the past week now I have been in what I've termed a "post Italy hangover". Getting back into the groove of things has been a bit harder than I previously had thought. However, I do not think it is due fully to missing Italy; before leaving for Italy I was already in this "funk". I was having trouble approaching, one of my wings was getting on me (note: community guys suck to go out with once you've popped your approaching cherry, they're just nerds), and going out was such a chore.

As I've written before, in Italy I rekindled that fun for going out, and I intend to keep it that way. Having said that, I want to jump start other parts of my life as well. Starting tomorrow I will be making changes in my life and scenery. This was inspired mainly by conversations I had with two friends, who suggested that one of the best ways to change behavior is to change one's surrounding environment. With that being the case, I will change the following things:

1) Leisure computer time will be cut in half
2) Make more activities outside of the apartment (e.g. read books on the quad).
3) Re-arrange my room, get some posters and other decorations

That is all I have on the list for now, as I think of more stuff I will add to it.

Randomness

I don't have a specific topic in mind for this post, but rather random thoughts that have been on my mind that I'd like to write about. Firstly I'd like to say that I recently read a friend's post on Purpose and found it to be absolutely brilliant. This guy is very insightful and has definitely helped me along my way to changing my life. Also, it made me start thinking about how one is successful in pursuing his goal or purpose. For me, a someone who is successful at this is someone who, has described in the Purpose post, has a strong and resolute purpose to guide him along. Moreover, they must have the foresight to see what it will take to get to that goal, and at the same time be intensely focused on the present moment so that they may execute and react to the present situation. Having a strong sense of the present is a quality I find invaluable, since it allows you to focus 100% of your resources on the task at hand while not worrying about past failures or future obstacles.

Another quality that many, including myself, want is charisma. The funny thing is, I think when I was in Italy was when I was the most charismatic. Allow me to explain. I was in a group of 15 students that went to Italy and study in this program over there. We all lived in the same apartment buildings, each having one roommate. There, we met these two Italian guys that hang out with the Americans that come every year(my school does this program every year, and every year the students stay at the same place). These guys were a fucking blast, they were loud, outgoing, partied all the time, and generally didn't seem to have a care in the world. We became fast friends. This was exactly the way I was in Italy, too. A conversation I had with a good friend (the same guy that wrote the post I mentioned above) before leaving this program loosened me up, and when I got there I was a completely carefree individual. I was loud, outspoken, was not afraid to use my Italian, and generally did what I wanted. Everyone on the trip loved me! Strangely enough, this was one time where I genuinely didn't care about what others think, unlike when I use to go out and sarge, and at the end of the program people were telling me how they had a blast with me (I got some of the girls attracted to me during this program, but they were not hot and eventually they ended up not 'liking' me since I didn't escalate).

What is my point in all of this? I'm not sure. But I was thinking about it today and figured you'd be able to extract something from this. Maybe if I can think of how to organize this better I will later on, or perhaps I will wait for comments to decide on what to write about next.

They're all a bunch of nerds

I had a great time in Italy! For one month I traveled all of Italy, hung out with a cool group of guys, made some new great friends, and went out and had a blast almost every night. On top of that, I didn't think about approaching, seduction, M3, opening, or whatever. Having been in this thing for a considerable amount of time I believe people boil down more or less into two groups into these things. Nerds and soon to be social butterflies.

Nerds are the people who carried their dorkiness into this. They'll talk you ear off about the intricacies of one type of game versus another, or why one guru is better than the other, however, they will rarely talk about how last nite out in a bar or club went for them. The reason for this is because they rarely if ever go out! If they do, they don't socialize, they're way too into their heads analyzing mundane bullshit (this was me for like 4 months, though I did open). I just want to grab these guys and shake them up and yell "it doesn't fucking matter! be fucking normal, have fun and make women part of this experience!".

Then there are the soon to be social butterflies, most of the people with whom I socialize that are in this "community" are a part of. These guys have lives, or at least are building really great lives, and are just taking this stuff and using it to add-on and/or enhance their lives. Sure, they sit down and think over what happened, but they won't sit down and talk about intricacies of game. These are the guys I want to be friends with, not the nerds. They make women a part of an already fun life, which is why they'll probably get women in the first place.


In short, I am not even sure if I want to hang around all this PUA stuff anymore. I have been improving, and it is not due to posting on forums about the finer points of direct game, but rather continually and shamelessly socializing while having fun and not taking stuff personally. It's all a game anyways, and the more you play the better you get.